The Real Adoptea Moxie

Acknowledgments - Born in the Shadows, Living in the Light: My Adoptee Epiphanies, The Fight of My Life by Pamela A. Karanova

Every adoptee I have connected with over the last two decades has brought more joy, understanding, and connection than I ever imagined possible.

Feb 8 • Pamela A. Karanova

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Introduction - Born in the Shadows, Living in the Light: My Adoptee Epiphanies, The Fight of My Life by Pamela A. Karanova

Born in the Shadows, Living in the Light is where the fight deepened. Finding the truth did not magically heal me. It cracked everything open.

Feb 8 • Pamela A. Karanova

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The Magic of the Luna Moth: A Letter to My Readers

My journey through life as an adoptee has been one of both shadows and starlight, filled with moments that completely broke me and others that pieced me…

Feb 5 • Pamela A. Karanova

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A Special Announcement: This Is Me Trusting the Story Enough to Set It Free. No Gatekeepers. No Apologies. My Memoir Starts Here.

A Live Release, A Living Adoptee Story, and a Memoir Serialized on Substack, One Chapter at a Time

Feb 3 • Pamela A. Karanova

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January 2026

One of The Adoption Industry’s Most Dangerous Claims Is Still Being Repeated Without Accountability

Calling out an industry that sells promises of safety and a better life while refusing to track outcomes, measure harm, or take responsibility for what…

Jan 29 • Pamela A. Karanova

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Maternal Separation Is Traumatic, and The Adoption Machine Is Fueled By It.

Maternal separation is traumatic by definition. Individual experience does not override biology nor the majority of adoptees who do feel completly…

Jan 12 • Pamela A. Karanova

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Who We Are, Where We Come From, and Why Truth in Adoption Matters

Every adoptee deserves to know who they are and where they come from. Not someday. Not conditionally. Not if they are grateful enough or quiet enough or…

Jan 8 • Pamela A. Karanova

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I Spent Decades Fighting the One Thing as An Adoptee I Could Not Change

It showed up as deep self-hate, self-sabotage, and an exhausting level of anger and rage that was with me for all of my teen years and a great big…

Jan 6 • Pamela A. Karanova

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December 2025

An Open Letter to Dear Abby: Your Advice Promotes Adoption Secrecy as a Virtue, Instead of Psychological Violence

An open letter from an adult adoptee on truth,and why secrecy, lies and half-truths in adoption are never humane. A response to the adoption secrecy…

Dec 23, 2025 • Pamela A. Karanova

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November 2025

Adoption: You Don’t Lie to People You Love -You Lie to People You Want to Manipulate.

Adoption, as it operates today, is rooted in the same tactics we were raised to believe were morally indefensible.

Nov 27, 2025 • Pamela A. Karanova

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Autistic, Adopted, and Done Hiding: A Response to a Brave Redditor

If you decide to tell your adoptive family, you don’t owe them a dissertation. You don’t need to give them a speech or hand them a PowerPoint.

Nov 26, 2025 • Pamela A. Karanova

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Stop Using Biological Family Horror Stories to Discount and Discredit Adoptee Trauma

Gratitude has been used as a muzzle on adoptees for decades, silencing our pain and preventing honest conversations about the realities of adoption.

Nov 25, 2025 • Pamela A. Karanova

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