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Thank you, Pamela. So much of what you said resonates with me. My teen years were particularly hard for me, and like you said, tools and resources, would’ve been really helpful. The grief can be overtaking. But, I am pressing on and moving forward with new adoptee friends and great support and resources now. Thank you again for your raw truth!!

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Good morning my friend! I am so sorry for your pain, and oh, do I remember the teen years so well. That was when I was the most destructive towards myself and others. I remember being so angry and filled with so much self-hate I just wanted to leave the world. Not one person understood my pain; I am sure I didn't even understand the layers and depths. I do remember hoping my birth mother would return to get me as a child, but she never showed up. That's when the shit hit the fan. There isn't one person on earth that could tell me relinquishment trauma wasn't the core, yet even all the therapists I saw from five years old could help me. I am writing about that soon! Thank you so much for sharing here, and for your support! Resources for us and our adoptee community CHANGES EVERYTHING! Love you lady, and so glad to be on this journey with you! <3 XOXO

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