Even when it's shattering, living with the truth is better than living a lie. Healing can happen, but living in the unknown doesn't provide this luxury; it robs adoptees of it.
I did a DNA test and it absolutely wrecked my relationship with my adoptive mom. If things weren't tense before- crap hit the fan when I started exploring my heritage. I am glad I know now, also, my "mother" makes up anything she can to try to say my DNA results are a lie. Like I did my own research from all the information I had about myself, and she still is like "WELL, you can't be this bc your file was misplaced in the orphanage." It's exhausting. I now have both my therapist and medication provider backing me on my "mother" being controlling and refusing to let me be my own person and form my own identity. But then she'll go out and wants to buy my sibling a DNA test also because I was so interested. But she refused to buy me one, so I had to get a free one. So, the amount of favoritism in my family is astounding.
I did a DNA test and it absolutely wrecked my relationship with my adoptive mom. If things weren't tense before- crap hit the fan when I started exploring my heritage. I am glad I know now, also, my "mother" makes up anything she can to try to say my DNA results are a lie. Like I did my own research from all the information I had about myself, and she still is like "WELL, you can't be this bc your file was misplaced in the orphanage." It's exhausting. I now have both my therapist and medication provider backing me on my "mother" being controlling and refusing to let me be my own person and form my own identity. But then she'll go out and wants to buy my sibling a DNA test also because I was so interested. But she refused to buy me one, so I had to get a free one. So, the amount of favoritism in my family is astounding.