Thank you for writing this well researched and documented article. As a 74.5 year old adoptee, brought home from the hospital at 3 days old, and finding out about the addictions and trauma of adoption only 3-4 years ago I can say with some authority to this information would have been very helpful about 40 years ago when I was found. That said; I know that most, if not all, of it was not available in the early 80s when I was found. I now know that my APs should not have been parents at all. My ADad was a bully and my AMom never showed any affection or love whatsoever.
You are more than welcome! I am so sorry for all your pain and the heartache involved. You deserved so much more. I am so glad you can finally piece some of these complex layers together with being adopted. It really does impact every area of our lives. I feel the same about research lacking when I was adopted and growing up. Adoptive Parents were not prepared, and they still aren't, sadly. They have no idea what they are getting themselves into. This is one of the reasons I keep sharing, writing, and trying to help others better understand the adoptee experience. If we don't, who will? Sending you some sunshine today, and thank you for being here and for your support!! XO PK.
Thank you for writing this well researched and documented article. As a 74.5 year old adoptee, brought home from the hospital at 3 days old, and finding out about the addictions and trauma of adoption only 3-4 years ago I can say with some authority to this information would have been very helpful about 40 years ago when I was found. That said; I know that most, if not all, of it was not available in the early 80s when I was found. I now know that my APs should not have been parents at all. My ADad was a bully and my AMom never showed any affection or love whatsoever.
Hi Rodger,
You are more than welcome! I am so sorry for all your pain and the heartache involved. You deserved so much more. I am so glad you can finally piece some of these complex layers together with being adopted. It really does impact every area of our lives. I feel the same about research lacking when I was adopted and growing up. Adoptive Parents were not prepared, and they still aren't, sadly. They have no idea what they are getting themselves into. This is one of the reasons I keep sharing, writing, and trying to help others better understand the adoptee experience. If we don't, who will? Sending you some sunshine today, and thank you for being here and for your support!! XO PK.