Thank you for this. I was really shocked and upset when I learned that aunts and uncles had adopted children. Many of them were older, and financially stable (so was birth mom!) so kinship adoption was a real possibility for me. My birth mom was against it. It’s hard to say how devastating this is. I see it as a sign of deep dysfunction. This is not something healthy families would dream of doing. Let’s treat this as the tragedy it is, something to fight against, and not treat adoptees as collateral damage in a family’s drama.
Hi Bettina, I am sorry to learn this is part of your story! My heart aches for you and any other adoptee who could have stayed within the family they were relinquished from. It has to hurt on so many levels—definitely a sign of deep dysfunction. I agree with you on this being something we should all fight against in every way. Let's keep sharing the damage and the truth, because I think people are finally starting to listen. Hugs to you! <3
Thank you for this. I was really shocked and upset when I learned that aunts and uncles had adopted children. Many of them were older, and financially stable (so was birth mom!) so kinship adoption was a real possibility for me. My birth mom was against it. It’s hard to say how devastating this is. I see it as a sign of deep dysfunction. This is not something healthy families would dream of doing. Let’s treat this as the tragedy it is, something to fight against, and not treat adoptees as collateral damage in a family’s drama.
Hi Bettina, I am sorry to learn this is part of your story! My heart aches for you and any other adoptee who could have stayed within the family they were relinquished from. It has to hurt on so many levels—definitely a sign of deep dysfunction. I agree with you on this being something we should all fight against in every way. Let's keep sharing the damage and the truth, because I think people are finally starting to listen. Hugs to you! <3