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Ande Scott's avatar

My churches refusal to hear me and the other adopted person in our group was one if the reasons I began questioning everything about the way they treated people(there were other reasons as well) I now have a tattoo; Vincit omnia veritas- truth always wins , which I consider my adoption tattoo.

My one concern is the age appropriate aspect . I have seen MANY adoptive parents and others who use this as a way to avoid honesty and trans, because it can be so arbitrary. My own adoptive family and the dozens of their acquaintances who knew and says nothing have given me numerous excuses for why telling me the truth at different times just wasn’t the right time. They decided for me what I was capable of, rather than providing the tools to navigate the truths in a healthy manner. I feel like the appropriate age can be a cop-out, and truth should prevail from day one. It is the afams responsibility to create a space where that truth can be integrated in a way that allows the person to understand and process the pain.

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A.J. Sanderell's avatar

Going on 56 years old and the torture of my existence pretty much gets worse daily. One of my natural mothers older brothers is a Catholic Priest. I wish someone would send this to him. A copy to some of my religious natural and adoptive aunts too.

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