Wow, you really hit me between the eyes with this one! Thanks for telling it like it is and putting so many of my already-existing thoughts into something that's easily understood. I am an adoptee who will be turning 60 later this year and I've been struggling to write my own story and with how to even think about it. Articles like this help me sort things out a great deal. Thanks again!
Thank you so much for sharing this with me, John. I see you, and I understand how hard it can be to even begin untangling the layers of our stories. Hitting 60 as an adoptee carries decades of experiences, questions, and emotions that are often buried or silenced. I’m honored that my words helped you feel seen and validated.
Keep leaning into your truth because your story matters more than you know, and when you’re ready, it will come out in exactly the way it’s meant to. Keep going. 🩵
Even when the conditions were not overtly stated, I felt them, the need to be perfect or else. Or else never came and now my adoptive parents are long gone. I wish my first family understood the depth of pain caused by my erasure from them. I think they can't even go there with the possibility that I was somehow harmed but I was harmed in unimaginable ways. Time to say that out loud.
Jill, I’m so proud of you for saying that out loud. Your words carry deep truth, and I want you to know they landed with care and respect.
You’re absolutely right, so often, our families can’t or won’t tap into the reality of how adoption has harmed us. That disconnect can be just as painful as the loss itself. But your voice matters, and speaking your truth is powerful. Thank you for bringing it here. 🩵
I want to share this with everyone I've ever known. I couldn't have described my experience better myself. Thank you, and the need for boundary adjustment is completely understandable.
Wow, thank you so much for this. It means more than I can put into words to know it resonated with you that deeply. You’re absolutely right, sometimes adjusting boundaries is the only way to protect our peace and continue speaking our truth. I’m honored you saw your own experience in my words. Hugs and love! 🩵
Wow, you really hit me between the eyes with this one! Thanks for telling it like it is and putting so many of my already-existing thoughts into something that's easily understood. I am an adoptee who will be turning 60 later this year and I've been struggling to write my own story and with how to even think about it. Articles like this help me sort things out a great deal. Thanks again!
Thank you so much for sharing this with me, John. I see you, and I understand how hard it can be to even begin untangling the layers of our stories. Hitting 60 as an adoptee carries decades of experiences, questions, and emotions that are often buried or silenced. I’m honored that my words helped you feel seen and validated.
Keep leaning into your truth because your story matters more than you know, and when you’re ready, it will come out in exactly the way it’s meant to. Keep going. 🩵
Thank you very much for those kind and encouraging words, Pamela!
Even when the conditions were not overtly stated, I felt them, the need to be perfect or else. Or else never came and now my adoptive parents are long gone. I wish my first family understood the depth of pain caused by my erasure from them. I think they can't even go there with the possibility that I was somehow harmed but I was harmed in unimaginable ways. Time to say that out loud.
Jill, I’m so proud of you for saying that out loud. Your words carry deep truth, and I want you to know they landed with care and respect.
You’re absolutely right, so often, our families can’t or won’t tap into the reality of how adoption has harmed us. That disconnect can be just as painful as the loss itself. But your voice matters, and speaking your truth is powerful. Thank you for bringing it here. 🩵
I want to share this with everyone I've ever known. I couldn't have described my experience better myself. Thank you, and the need for boundary adjustment is completely understandable.
Wow, thank you so much for this. It means more than I can put into words to know it resonated with you that deeply. You’re absolutely right, sometimes adjusting boundaries is the only way to protect our peace and continue speaking our truth. I’m honored you saw your own experience in my words. Hugs and love! 🩵