Bringing Back the Old School Magic of Connection: The Real Adoptea Moxie Exclusive Live Chat Kicks Off This Saturday!
Oh, how I long for the good old days when Saturday nights were all about popping into old-school chat rooms—those buzzing spaces where conversations happened in real time.
Oh, how I long for the good old days when Saturday nights were all about popping into old-school chat rooms—those buzzing spaces where conversations happened in real time, filled with laughter, support, and the magic of genuine connection. There was something so simple yet extraordinary about gathering virtually to chat live with people from all over, creating a community that felt like home.
Inspired by that nostalgia, I’m thrilled to announce the launch of something equally exciting and deeply meaningful through The Real Adoptea Moxie platform: a virtual live chat space for adoptees to share their hearts. We will welcome those in the adoption constellation, but they will be listening and learning from the real experts in the adoption constellation—the adoptees!
This Saturday, we’re kicking off with an impromptu live chat session where you can pop in, share your story, and connect with others who truly understand. This one’s open to all my friends and followers, but moving forward, these live chats will be exclusively for paid subscribers—a space lovingly curated to center adoptee voices where we can lean into our stories and share the Adoptea Realitea.
Why This Space Matters
The holidays can be challenging for adoptees. From complicated family dynamics to feelings of loneliness and nostalgia, it’s a season when many of us feel the need for connection and understanding more than ever.
These chats are here to meet that need—a space where you can:
- Feel heard and validated by others who truly get it.
- Share your adoptee journey, no matter where you are on your path.
- Find joy, healing, and laughter through authentic conversations.
- Build a sense of belonging in a world that often feels isolating.
This isn’t just a live chat room; it’s a lifeline. It is a safe haven where adoptees can speak freely, without judgment, surrounded by others who understand the nuances of our experiences.
Right at your fingertips, you can download the Substack app, subscribe to my newsletter, and instantly find connection and community during our live chat sessions. It’s as simple as setting a reminder on your phone and showing up—no matter what you’re wearing, the kind of day you’ve had, or the background you come from. This space is for you, just as you are. With the app, staying connected is easy and convenient, making it possible to join our conversations wherever you are. Don’t miss the chance to be part of this incredible community that’s all about realness, connection, and understanding. You’re always welcome here!
Who Can Join & What Are The Topics?
This is an adoptee-centric space, meaning the topics we discuss will focus on the unique experiences, challenges, and journeys of adoptees. When we say adoptee-centric, we mean adoptee voices are always kept front and center. Everyone who shares in this space is an adoptee, creating an authentic environment for open dialogue.
While we welcome those who aren’t adopted to join as quiet participants, their role here is to listen, learn, and gain a deeper understanding of the adoptee experience through our lived realities. This space is dedicated to illuminating adoptee voices. This ensures that the spotlight remains on adoptee voices, fostering a space where we can share, heal, and connect without distraction. It’s a chance for those who are not adoptees to step back, listen, and learn from the experiences of those at the very heart of the adoption constellation.
What to Expect This Saturday
Mark your calendars! Set a reminder and watch for an email when we go live. The chat will kick off from 8P-9P EST, and you’re invited to bring your favorite drink, whether it’s a cozy cup of tea, a glass of wine, or your go-to nightcap.
Come ready to share:
- Who you are, where you are from, and what brought you here.
- Anything in your heart about being adopted.
- Thoughts on navigating the holidays as an adoptee.
- Your favorite self-care practices.
- A memory or reflection that shaped your adoptee journey.
If you’re not ready to share, that’s okay too—feel free to listen, soak in the connection, and know you’re not alone.
This Saturday: A Stand-Alone Event!
This special live chat is a single stand-alone event to test the waters, but I’m already planning some inspiring and meaningful chat spaces for the future and crafting an agenda for December to create community and connection over the holidays! Moving forward, these will be exclusively for paid subscribers and crafted with adoptees in mind—spaces where we can continue to connect, share, and thrive together. If you haven’t subscribed yet, now’s the perfect time to join the fun! Consider upgrading to the $5 version to ensure you’re part of these future adoptee-centric conversations. Together, we’ll build something truly unique and empowering.
Looking Ahead
This Saturday is just the beginning. Moving forward, these chats will be a paid subscriber-exclusive feature of The Real Adoptea Moxie, offering a private, intentional space for deeper conversations. Your subscription helps ensure this community remains a vibrant, meaningful place for adoptees to connect and thrive.
Raw, Unfiltered, Authentic Discussion
These spaces are intentionally unfiltered and uncensored because, for so many of us, healing begins when we can speak freely without fear of judgment or restraint. Adoptees often carry stories, feelings, and experiences that are complex, raw, and sometimes difficult to share in traditional spaces. Here, there’s no need to sugarcoat or hold back. This is a place where your truth is honored, where you can say what’s on your heart exactly as it is. Speaking freely can be profoundly cathartic—it’s a release, a reclaiming of your voice, and a step toward healing. These unfiltered moments of connection allow us to feel seen, heard, and validated in ways that are often unavailable elsewhere, and that’s what makes these spaces so vital.
I’m also exploring making the live chat a regular event every Saturday! While I’m excited about the possibility of creating a consistent space where adoptees can connect, share, and support one another weekly, I want to ensure there’s a genuine need and commitment from the community before taking that step.
If you become a $5/month paid subscriber, you’ll have access to all future live chat pop-ups and planned live chat sessions, giving you a front-row seat to these meaningful and empowering conversations. However, before committing to a regular schedule, I want to assess the need and ensure this space truly serves the community. Your participation and feedback during this trial run will help shape what’s next. If the session this Saturday, 11/23, resonates with you, upgrading your subscription is a great way to stay connected and support this unique space for adoptees!
Sometimes, having that one space where we can truly share our hearts and hurts can change everything. It’s a space where we come as we are, speak our peace, and make the powerful choice to let it go. Think of this when you consider joining our live virtual chat spaces at The Real Adoptea Moxie. That simple yet profound gesture of sharing your story, your feelings, or even just a passing thought with others who understand can be transformative. Sometimes, releasing what’s been bottled up for far too long is the first step to healing. Join us this Saturday and give yourself the gift of connection, validation, and freedom—it could change everything.
Please mark your calendars, grab your favorite drink, and let’s make this a night to remember!
You will receive an email before the live chat, and you can join that way. Save the date! I look forward to seeing you live in the chat room this Saturday, November 23rd, from 8 PM to 9 PM EST.
Disclaimer
Please note: I am not a licensed therapist or mental health professional, and these sessions are not intended to replace professional therapy or mental health treatment. This space is for entertainment, connection, and community-building purposes only. If you need professional support, please seek assistance from a qualified mental health provider or appropriate resources.
We are also committed to maintaining a safe and respectful environment during these chats. Anyone engaging in disruptive or unsupportive behavior—including spam, bots, trolls, or internet bullies—will be immediately blocked and banned. This is a space for kindness, validation, and authentic connection; we stand firm in protecting that.
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please take immediate steps to ensure your safety. Contact a licensed mental health professional or text #988 for immediate assistance.
If you prefer a more personal connection, I’ve got you covered! I’ve created **Virtual Table Talk Sessions** to offer a one-on-one space where we can dive deeper into your thoughts, feelings, and questions. These sessions are for anyone seeking a private, meaningful conversation about their adoptee journey or related experiences.
I designed these one-on-one sessions to provide a safe, supportive, and judgment-free space for you to share your story, feel heard, and explore what’s on your heart. Whether you’re navigating the complexities of adoption, seeking validation, or need someone who truly gets it, these Table Talks are for you.
Let’s connect at the table. Book your one-on-one session today!
I see you; I feel your pain for all the adoptees who feel forgotten, lost, and alone. Please don’t give up, and know you aren’t alone in feeling like you do.
I have compiled a list of recommended resources for adoptees and advocates. It can be found here: Recommended Resources for Adult Adoptees and Adoption Advocates.
Thank you for reading and for supporting me and my work.
Understanding is Love,
Pamela A. Karanova
Here are a few articles that highlight the intersection of adoption, grief and loss I recommend reading:
The Essential Role of The Grief Recovery Method in The Adoption Constellation.
Still, Grieving Adoptee Losses, What My Adoptive Parents Could Have Done Differently.
Acknowledging Immeasurable Adoptee Grief, The Real Mother.
When Adoptees Know Loss Before We Know Love.
Bewildering Adoptee Grief on Infinite Repeat.
30 Things To Consider Before Adopting From An Adult Adoptee Perspective.
Adoptee Holiday Grief, The Gift That Keeps On Giving.
Adoption Hasn’t Touched Me. It’s Ruthlessly Kicked My Ass.
Adoption: Mislabeled, Medicated, & Diagnosed Adoptees Could Be Grieving Profoundly.
Adoption: Deconstructing Harmful Myths We've Learned About Adoptee Grief.
Grief From Adoption? Most People Think Of Death and Dying When They Think of Grief.
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